It takes courage to step into change, or into a new chapter in life, and requires brave decisions. Often uncertainty, self doubt and limiting self belief can hold us back from creating the life we truly want. Self worth is important as you negotiate change, it’s important to believe in yourself, to trust your intuition, and to know you’ll be okay.

You can improve and build your feelings of self worth, with
this simple ABC

A= Self Awareness

Self awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and understand your own character, feelings motives and desires. This is important because when we have a better understanding of ourselves we are able to experience ourselves as a unique individual who has strengths we can leverage off, as well as areas where we would like to build and improve.

In her book Your Next Chapter – ditch the doubt, own your worth, and build the business, Angela Raspass reminds us “Discontent happens when we are on the edge of change.”

This discontent can be a signal that change is on the horizon and can grow into such discomfort that will inspire or provoke us into wanting to make a change.

We may find ourselves feeling stuck or oscillating between
choices. When this happens, get quiet and go within, notice your feelings, check
in with how you feel with your different options, and notice the choices that feel
uplifting and energizing, or those that weigh heavy in your gut or heart. This
is you body compass at work, learn to read and follow it, and trust you know
the way.

Through self awareness we are able to identify and align
with what we value.  These values help us to
navigate change more easily, to connect more fully with what’s around us, and
to grow more surely into who, or what we want to become. Values are a reflection of our beliefs and what
we hold as important. Having clarity about our values empowers us to make the
right choices and decisions, to take action, to focus and move toward our
specific purpose and the life that we intend for ourselves.

B = Self Belief

Self belief is your belief in your ability to complete tasks
and achieve your goals.

Self awareness will enable you to distinguish your own
beliefs from others, so you can check in and ask your self am I being being
true to myself at this moment?

The story you tell yourself about your life and the way you
think will influence the way you live. Thinking you are capable of achieving success
increases your chances, just as judging yourself as not capable will decrease your
chances.

Notice the stories you tell yourself; always, never should,
have to…. are these true? Ask yourself where does this come from? Get curious
and create a new story for how you would prefer to be…

Notice if your internal dialogue is not helpful, “I’m not enough” and be able to turn
that thinking around. Come up with the opposite idea. “I am enough” and three pieces of evidence for why this is true. Give
yourself three reasons why – “you are
enough”.

Let me help you get started:

You are enough: you’re unique, you have special gifts and qualities, you
care about certain things, you are where you are today…. use these to help you fill in the following….

1. I’m enough
because ….

2. I’m enough
because ….

3. I’m enough
because ….

C= Self Compassion

Show compassion and kindness to yourself, and when things don’t
go to plan, treat yourself and talk to yourself like you would your best
friend.

People with self worth are not “always happy”, they notice
their emotions and make space for them, allow them to be as they are, and when
they no longer feel the need for those emotions they can let them go. This is
all about how you respond to what happens. Stay responsible for your feelings
thoughts and actions and rather than feeling sorry for yourself, take action
that will help you move on. Sure you can feel bad and you may get down on yourself
when things are not going to plan, then its all about how you respond and
handle these feelings; acknowledge how you’re feeling and move forward to find
solutions, let go of what you can’t control, and learn from your experiences.

Create time and space for your self, set boundaries, and
invite people into your life who have earned a right to be there, just as you
will recognize and accept accept others will invite you into their life when
you have earned a right to be there.

Do the things you enjoy, and love doing them, create a life
that is meaningful and making time to do those things does not make you
selfish, it gives you positive energy to share with others, helping your self,
makes it possible to help others, and accept that others need the space and encouragement
to do what they love.

When discontent, doubt, and uncertainty show up, check in
with this self worth ABC, find ways to take action one small step at a time
toward what you want. When we stumble we grow stronger, and with each small step
forward we get braver.